WHAT TO SAY AT THE OFFICE PARTY
1. Give compliments
Offer someone else a compliment, but make sure you are honest and don't overdo it. If you receive one in return and feel uncomfortable, just say "Thank you." Don't discount the praise by telling the person all the reasons why you don't deserve it.
2. Join an ongoing conversation
At a party, it is perfectly appropriate to join an ongoing conversation. People often walk about, moving in and out of different conversations. See if you can join in with a group of people who are discussing something that interests you.
3. Be prepared
Have some topics of conversation prepared, but make sure to actually listen to the other person rather than rehearsing what you'll say next.
4. Ask questions
Be curious and intrigued about other people and their lives and interests.
5. Be positive
People respond better to positive statements than negative.
6. Use active listening skills
Reflect back that you are understanding what the other person is saying. Paraphrase what they say, ask for clarification and provide feedback.
7. Try to talk about things other than work
Take the opportunity to get to know people on a personal level.
8. Include your date in conversations by finding common interests
This is especially important if your date is shy or doesn't know anyone else but you.
9. Stick to neutral topics
Just like your grandmother advised, don't talk about religion, politics or sex.