THIS MONTH IS Weddings Month --

Here's some marriage stats for you. Almost every one of these could get phones.

More than half of couples say they hug or kiss anytime they have the chance.

36% say they get affectionate at least three times a day.

67% of wives say they do all the grocery shopping.

33% of married people have no idea what their spouse earns.

17% of married people have thrown something at their spouse when they were angry.

More than a third have slept apart because of a fight.

31% say they don't talk for an hour after a fight with their spouse.

21% don't talk for at least a day after fighting with their spouse.

19% stop the silent treatment after about five minutes.

26% never do that silent treatment thing.

56% of wives are in charge of paying all the bills.

38% of wives are in complete control of the family budget.

53% of married people tell spouses they love them at least once a day. 15% say it once a week. 4% hardly say it at all; 23% never say it.

69% of married people say there are no secrets in their marriage.

11% say they keep quiet about money.

10% keep quiet about affairs.

6% keep their weight a secret.

45% of couples say they'd share each other's toothbrush. 36% would only use their spouse's toothbrush in an emergency. 19% never would use their spouse's toothbrush.

Couples who use the word "we" more than the word "I" appear to have stronger marriages because they have a greater sense of shared identity, according to a study from the University of California, Berkeley. Of the 154 couples, those who used "we," "our" and "us" were better able to resolve the inevitable conflicts of marriage and acted more positively toward one another than the couples who used "I," "me" and "you," which emphasized their separateness.

An unhappy marriage may be as bad for your health as a fast food diet. Investigators found that women in rocky relationships were up to 40% more likely than happily hitched women to have metabolic syndrome a cluster of health issues including obesity and high cholesterol that can lead to heart disease. Chronic stress stimulates the release of the hormone cortisol, which causes the body to store fat in the belly. Excess ab fat is a major risk factor for metabolic syndrome, says study author Tim Smith, Ph.D., of the University of Utah. (Women's Health)

If your marriage isn't going as well as you'd hoped and communication seems to be at an all time low, you might want to take a look at your relationship with your parents. According to family coach and Episcopal priest David Code, people who distance themselves from their parents tend to distance themselves from their spouses as well. The problem boils down to our fight or flight response, Code says. Many Americans mistakenly believe that rather than confronting mom or dad in "fight" mode, simply avoiding them is the answer without realizing they have in fact taken the "flight" option. The same situation can creep into marriages without being noticed.


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