TALK BLOCKERS

You can have the best intentions, but if you're sending the wrong signals, kids will clam up, says Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of "12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know." Watch for these:

Body language
Avoid gestures like shrugging your shoulders or leaning back with arms folded, which a kid is likely to read as, "I don't accept you." And don't stand above her if your teen is sitting or is shorter than you, sit down.

Facial expressions
Beware the scowl, the raised eyebrows, the rolled eyes, the smirk. They don't like it any more than you do.

Nonverbal sounds
Skip the heavy sighs and groans. You probably do it without even realizing.

Tone
Are you talking to your teen in the voice you'd use with a friend? Keep it casual and conversational.

Yelling
If you're not careful, your voice may go up a level. Moms need to use their "indoor" voice, too.

Talking too much
Bite your tongue literally if necessary. Count to 10 and give your child plenty of time to formulate his thoughts.

Sarcasm
Don't try to be funny; hypersensitive kids may feel insulted. Save your sparkling wit for grown-ups.

Anger
Stay as relaxed as possible, even if you have to say, "I need some time to calm down. Let's talk later," and come back when you're cooler.

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